Friday, October 21, 2011

Black Love !

I once read a blogpost by the Massage Mogul "There are No Good Black Men" where people wanted to date outside their race because they had the grass-is-greener-on-the-other-side syndrome. The blog concluded by stating basically that:
Yes, there are good black men!
No, the grass is NOT greener on the other side (every relationship has its highlights and downsides)
and it is ok to date outside your race if love is the reason and not color.

I was raised in a family where color/ race was not important. Love is love and people are people.
Last night I had the pleasure of attending a wedding rehearsal for my dear friend, Ayesha, and when the groom thanked us for coming out and being a part of this special moment in their lives, he said "noone here is a friend, y'all are really brothers and sisters from another mother".

We ate, drank, told jokes (it's a fun bunch of characters...that wedding is going to be off da chain! lol) we partied into the wee hours of the morning, and as I looked at the couple, not only are they perfectly suited for each other, but they are also a shining example of "Black Love". They work hard, they party harder lol, they love hard...they take care of their family. Everyday is not perfect but they make it work; through the bills, the schedules with the kids, through life...and they are happy!

SO to all the naysayers, or those who've been so severely hurt that you think dating outside your race is the answer, Black  Love  exists!!!...but focus on has no color, no race, no exceptions, no boundaries...Love is Love.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

In order to have love we need to learn to 'be' love. Love without bitterness, without condition is the only way we can open ourselves to another. Here is the key, open YOURSELF. Give without condition, expecting nothing in return. When two people accomplish this, you find a beautiful, working relationship.
~Sir Duke~